Despite the messaging in media, especially porn and the self-help world, the answer is not another technique, and certainly not more effort, but simply this: a fundamental down-regulation of our nervous system when it comes to sexuality and everything we associate with it.
As children of a deeply traumatized and traumatizing sexual culture, there are generations of sexual stress embedded in our nervous systems. We experience this as sexual insecurity, „not being enough“, not feeling worthy, being stuck in shame and silence, and much, much more.
#MovingSlowSex reclaims our innate sense of wholeness and instinctive erotic intelligence by addressing the collective belief systems of our culture and collective past:
... questioning sexual concepts
… testing if our current sexual paradigms are really true
… unwinding layers of shame and guilt
… and leading to a next-level experience of freedom, innocence, and playfulness in lovemaking.
#MovingSlowSex transcends those collective belief systems that color our erotic experiences with pressure, 'do´s' and 'dont´s', performance anxiety and shame.
Orgasms of Peace
How to unlearn cultural norms.
Love and Rage
Why sexual surrender needs your rage!
Reading Trauma #1
The collective sexual wounding of women and how we can support healing,
Reading Trauma #2
The collective sexual wounding of men and how we can support healing.
What we can do in order to regain trust and depth with our partners.
Unlocking the ecstatic potential of our nervous system.
MindFucks and Shame
What our fantasies are (and what they are not).
Channeling sexual energy into a cosmic play party.
Global Sexual Healing
...and how everybody can support it.
• want sexuality being truly YOUR sexuality, instead of being a copy of somebody else
• want lovemaking to be about LIFE, not about performance
• want to expand – expand – expand your definitions of sex, your experience of pleasure and your horizon about what is erotically possible…
• gain more confidence and trust of yourself and your partner
• are courageous enough to question sexual concepts and sexual self-images
• want to use lovemaking for deeper healing on all levels
• let go of sexual patterns, shame and guilt
• want to transform “having sex” into a living, breathing prayer
• are curious about an avantgard next level sex-education and cutting-edge knowledge and research
This is a course for partners, please sign up as a couple.
I want you to feel truly safe with your intimate explorations during the course. All constellations of partnership and sexuality are equally welcome – your partner does not have to be your husband or wife, they might also be your friend.
"We got into a wonderful process that led us to even more matrix freedom and immediacy in our connection and all that that is.
I really thought the #WorstSexWorldCup Challenge was cool! Even Though we probably landed on the last spot, because it was - despite of giving each other the respect, just really hot. "
Ilan Stephani is a Berlin-based researcher, bodyworker and author about how to shift collective paradigms, un-learn cultural conditioning and gain back our natural orgasmic aliveness.
Ilan gained nation-wide attention with her bestselling book »Skin and Games – What Sexwork Taught Me About Love«. Ilan shares her work in both German and English, and online as well as in person.
"What makes it different and very special is that it is embedded in daily life! There were many deep learning experiences as well as many gifts. My favourite sentence by Ilan “I will fuck it up anyway.” allows me to experiment much more because there is nothing to be done 'right'. What a liberation!"
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